Sometimes well-meaning friends and family can tell you that you need to “move on” after your loss. Unfortunately, that type of advice can make you hesitant to talk about it, or make you think you’re grieving too long, or even that there’s something wrong about your grief.
Please, just remember that the grieving process is very personal and individual — there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. We all take our own time to heal.
It’s important not to drop out of life though. If you don’t like the idea of moving on (who does?), look on it as “keeping on“. For the moment you have to keep on doing the best you can.
When the sadness surges, let yourself have your feelings and try not to run away from them. Keep on doing things you would normally do – going to the shops, being with friends, caring for your pet, working out, or doing your schoolwork.
Going forward and healing from grief doesn’t mean forgetting about the person you lost. Getting back to enjoying your life doesn’t mean you no longer miss that loved person. And how long it takes until you start to feel better isn’t a measure of how much you loved that person! Grief is personal. All of us are different.
With time, the loving support of family and friends, and your own positive actions, you can find ways to cope with even the deepest loss.